12 Responses to “Ask The Soul Shaking Question”


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  1. Yes. I really like it. We have energy and time given us in our life. We can use it to complain about the way things are or we can use it to make things better. Sure, life isn’t fair, but it isn’t fair to anyone. We are given an amazing gift with being human that we are able to figure out and change our life.

    Thanks for another amazing post!

  2. This is an important post, not easy to read when you know it applies to you (Me). I think you’ve tackled a really tough issue here and hit the nail on the head. For me it’s all about scheduling time to do things, especially things like… sit down and ask the difficult questions and really look for solutions! I see it as a personal coaching session – just for me! :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts,x

  3. Awesome! While I am far from answering all of my soul shaking questions, this past year has seen me answer and respond to quite a few of them. And I’m in a much more positive place because of it.

    Turns out most of my reasons for not were more like excuses, and my answers required more work than I had wanted to give.

    You’re absolutely worth the time though, and this post is such a great way of explaining the process of making big changes.

  4. Mandy

    Hi Courtney, first time commenter and long time (well, about three months) reader. I’m making my way through your archives and mini missions, and I’m pleased to say I’ve done a whole house clean out inspired by your blog. Some stuff I haven’t been able to let go (mostly sentimental) but I think it’s all about balance and ‘sorting out the wheat from the chaff’ so to speak. I think about letters that have been kept from World War 1 veterans and passed down through families, so we do have to put some critical thought into what we keep and give/throw away.

    You may have done this already, but I wonder whether one of your blogs might comment on how ‘stuff’ is inextricably linked to consumerism, the environment etc. and dig a little deeper into what that all means. I think a lot of people would benefit from this. You have probably seen ‘The Story of Stuff’, a 25 minute video that can be accessed for free online. It’s probably a bit full on for some people (my Mum couldn’t get through it), and it has been criticised by some, but perhaps your blog could approach it in a more tempered way. I guess what we can take from it is that all this stuff comes from somewhere and that it is not impact-free!

    Many people don’t put much thought into what they are buying, what goes into it, what impacts it has had socially and environmentally and there’s so many ways we can reduce our consumerism, which leads to the accumulation of all this stuff in the first place. If we didn’t consume so much we wouldn’t have so much of a clutter problem!

    Kind regards :)

  5. These are all such great questions. The thing is that sometimes I have the answer immediately after asking the question and the answer is kind of sad. And then after that, I have to decide to stay like that or to do something about it.

  6. This piece hit me hard. In a good way.

    One of the questions I am asking myself lately is, why I am online as much as I am? Your thoughtful post here has lead me to challenge myself. I’m taking a completely dark week April 3-9 and challenging my blog readers to do the same. No cell phone, no Internet and no television.

    Much thanks for this one, Courtney :)

  7. Apple

    Very eye-opening questions Courtney. In my experience though, a lot of people need a psychotherapist to be able to honestly answer to “soul shaking questions” and then to be able to cope with and work through the answers. :)

  8. Oh, I love this post. Thank you so much for writing it. Too many of us are avoiding the questions that will ultimately unlock happier lives. I’ll be thinking of your post for quite awhile.

  9. My problem is that I’ve asked the soul shaking questions the last year, found the answers, but find that I don’t find the incentive to change. Maybe I just haven’t found a that shakes me enough? My problem, I think, it that I’ve oddly known who I am from birth, so have too much confidence. Thus when I ask myself a question, I already know the answer. And I give myself a “so what?!” response. How do you find the initiative and incentive to change when a large part of you says, “This is who I am. Take it or leave it?”

  10. Candice

    Several days ago I commented on the Fight for your Health post that I was intending to quit my job due to rotoscoliosis and focus on my health. However, I felt I needed a few more months of working mostly due to finances (and truth be told, fear of quitting). My beautiful 20 year old daughter was diagnosed with depression and GAD this past Thursday and was placed on an antidepressant. I’m sitting in quiet this morning asking these soul shaking questions with tears streaming down my face…how have I failed her and how can I save her? My soul shaking decision is to give immediate notice to my employer to focus on healing both my daughter and myself. I’m leaping into unemployment with credit card balances that won’t be paid down as planned, but my husband and I have agreed this is the best thing to do for our family.

  11. Great post and very insightful! I have learned that we need to repeatedly ask ourselves the ‘soul shaking questions’ because life happens and we get caught up in it so easily. I also work at living intentionally so that I ask myself the soul shaking questions upon ‘feeling’ something emotionally or physically that I used to dismiss in the midst of busyness. I have also learned that when we quiet our minds and get real and honest with ourselves we can learn a great deal about the questions and the answers that are often very obvious.

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