Dear Mr. and Ms. Right,
I’m not writing this letter to you because of your political affiliation or religious beliefs. I’m not talking about that kind of right. I am writing to your need to be right. I am writing to your desire to fix things. I am writing to your inclination to view the world through a very small lens.
When you consider that your lens is not the lens, and your world is not the world, you may understand that very rarely are you assessing all of the details that it would take to make a completely rational decision or judgement. In fact, you are probably only scratching the surface.
If my letter is already making you feel defensive, hush. Take a deep breath and consider that I may have something to offer.
You see, I am just like you. Being right is not just your burden. We all want to be right. It makes us feel good. It makes us feel in control. Even when we aren’t sure that we are right, we are positive that everyone else is doing it wrong.
- The government can’t do anything right.
- Your neighbors aren’t right.
- Your co-worker’s suggestion at the last meeting can’t be right.
- Your boss is never right.
- When was the last time your spouse was right?
Think about how many times in a day you think, “That’s not right.” and then think about what being right has ever done for you. Did you earn love? respect? relief? a promotion? peace? or did you just move on to the next thing to be right about? When you are focused on being right, you lose sight of what is really important.
Being right is exhausting. I want time in my day to just be, instead of being right.
When you remove judgement from a conversation, you have an opportunity to connect with someone and to learn something. Everyone has something to offer, something to teach you, but if you can’t hush, you’ll miss it.
Hush and worry less about being right. Instead …
- be grateful
- be amused
- be loving
- be happy
- be hopeful
- be nice
- be thoughtful
- be loved
Hush may be the gentlest way to say “shut up” but perhaps that’s what we need to hear. That’s what we need to tell ourselves when we go to that judgey, pious, I wanna be right place. Hush and invite life to unfold. Hush and give people a chance. Hush and consider that the best things in life don’t come from being right.