It may seem easier to measure our worth by what we have instead of who we are. We can clearly see what is in our bank account (or not), the material possessions that surround us and the labels we wear. There is a hard and fast equation for our net worth, but that is not what makes us worthy.
Net worth is easier to measure perhaps, but completely irrelevant. Your net worth and self-worth are not related. You might think that you have low self-worth because you have low net worth, or high self-worth because of your high net worth, but research proves that is not the case.
Your net worth demonstrates
- How much money you have.
- How much you own.
Your net worth is a total of your assets minus your liabilities. You can’t measure self-worth on a spread sheet. You can’t boil it down to hard facts and figures because:
Your self-worth is measured by
- How you treat people.
- How freely you give.
- How deeply you love.
- The way you take care of yourself.
- Your ability to learn and be open.
- Your capacity for gratitude, joy and vulnerability.
- Valuing a purposeful life or your search for it.
Brene Brown is a qualitative researcher and author who studies vulnerability and shame. In her research, she discovered that the only thing that separated a group of people who felt worthy (had high self-worth) and whole-hearted, from a group that felt unworthy, unloved, and not good enough, was that they believed they were. Just by believing that they were worthy of love and connection, they had love and connection.
You can’t buy self-worth and you can’t measure it by what is in your bank account. You can only believe in it and be a beautiful example of it through gratitude for your love and connection and by giving away love and connection. When you give away love and connection, you won’t have less of it. Instead, it will multiply exponentially.
If there is any doubt in your mind, let me help. You are worthy of love and connection. You deserve it and it’s yours if you want it. Believe it.
The difference between self-worth and net worth is love. Net worth is completely absent of love and self-worth is created by love. You will never measure up when comparing net worth. In fact, you will always fall short. There will always be someone who has more, earns more, saves more and has bigger numbers in the final column on the spread sheet.
Net worth shrinks when you give, and when it comes to self-worth, it only grows as you give. Our capacity for loving people, animals and the world can’t be put in a box or on a spreadsheet. It can’t be measured. It can’t be contained.
Our cups runneth over.