I used to collect sunglasses. I was on a quest to buy a new pair in every state and country I visited. I said I wanted a collection of sunglasses that told a story, but what I really wanted was to feel abundant.
Today my quest has shifted, and instead of collecting and adding, I subtract. I dress with 33 items or less including clothing, shoes, jewelry and accessories. And, one pair of sunglasses.
I was afraid that if I let go, I wouldn’t have enough, and I’d miss out, but the opposite happened. Owning fewer pairs of sunglasses and much less overall has given me more than I ever expected.
Less delivered more:
If we could stop equating abundance and wealth with extra zeros, all the toys, and more of everything, our self-worth would be more valuable than our net-worth. We could finally be grateful for the things we have instead of bitter for the things we don’t.
Before I let go, I kept looking for more because I didn’t think less was a possibility. Less work? Less debt? Less stress? Impossible. I thought I was stuck with all of that so I collected sunglasses, racked up even more debt, and kept accumulating to make myself feel better, worthy, and abundant.
Redefining abundance while I was simplifying my life helped me to let go of the stuff that doesn’t matter and to be deeply grateful for what does. The more grateful I became, the more abundant I felt.
Abundance is …
- more time with your children instead of more toys
- giving attention to what calls instead of what demands
- a great night of sleep knowing you don’t owe anyone anything
- following everyday wanderlust
- freedom to engage in work you love
- time for a long walk in the middle of the day
- developing the heart space to connect, to apologize, to forgive, to laugh really loud
If you tie abundance, wealth, or self-worth to what you earn or own, maybe you have a collection of sunglasses or something else that makes you feel better too. Once you let go, you can redefine abundance and grow and thrive in ways you’ve never imagined.
Abundance is a full heart, not a full house.