How much money, time, and attention have you spent on clothes, shoes, accessories and jewelry in your life? I don’t know my number, but I have a feeling it is significant; like pay for a college education, travel around the world, or support a cause I believe in significant.
I’m not asking the question to make you (or me) feel guilty, but to inspire change when considering how we will continue to invest our precious resources.
I remember times when I felt guilty spending $50 on a new dress I didn’t need, but when thinking about my investment of $20,000, 7 months, and energy that cannot be measured on an educational program last year, I only feel gratitude.
It was an investment in my work, heart and soul. I met people who have become friends for life. I learned how I really want to work in this world, and simply by making the investment in myself, I realized how much I cared about my work, and how showing up for it in the right way made all the difference in not only the success of my business, but in my health and relationships too.
Maybe you don’t spend much on clothes, but have another vice, or way you spend your time, money, and attention that may not serve you as well as something else. If you can identify that kind of pitfall, do the math and see what you’ve spent in the last year, 5 years, or 10. Then ask yourself if you want to spend on the same thing moving forward, or if there is another investment that might be more meaningful.
Less hiding. More shining.
You can’t lose with this investment strategy: Spend less money, time, and energy on hiding and covering up, and more money, time, and energy on shining. We easily spend our resources on things to help us cover up our bodies, emotions, tender hearts, and insecurities. But when we have an opportunity to really invest in ourselves, we try to talk ourselves out of it. As if we don’t deserve to shine, as if we aren’t worthy of the investment.
I spent more than a year considering the big investment I made last year. I wanted it, but I didn’t know if I was ready. Until I understood my question wasn’t, “Am I ready?” but “Am I worth it?” I couldn’t make the commitment.
If you could admit you are worth it, how would you best invest your money, time, and attention in the person underneath the clothes? The answer is going to be different for everyone, but imagine what it would feel like to experience gratitude and transformation around your next investment instead of guilt and disappointment. A new dress/shirt/pair of shoes won’t change you, but learning something new will. Investing in new furniture won’t move you on the inside, but helping someone else will lift you from the inside out.
You might want to use your resources to …
- get out of debt
- start or contribute to a charity that serves people you care about
- rescue a dog
- become a doctor
- start a blog or business or both
- get your child through school without debt
- take a writing class
- purchase art supplies and paint all day
- learn a language
What if you invested most of the money, time, & energy you’ve spent on your clothes on the person underneath them?
I’m not suggesting the items above are are the best ways to invest in yourself. Only you know what you most need and want. Once you accept the idea that you are worth it, and pull back on spending your resources on things that cover you up, you can begin to invest in what helps you shine.