Do you get frustrated when you can’t figure it all out?
Am I the only one who doesn’t have the next decade, next year, or even the next week perfectly planned out? Since 2020, it seems like everything is more of a mystery than ever.
The uncertainty can be unnerving. It makes us want to plan, find order … figure it all out. Cue middle of the night mind spinning sessions as if we can think ourselves into certainty.
Even though we are all going through it, sometimes it feels like everyone else has it all together. If you are like me and don’t have it all figured out, please remember these three things.
3 reminders if you don’t have it all figured out
- You are not alone. Don’t assume (especially based on social media) that your friends have it all figured out. You are only getting a glimpse of their reality. We all do our best to share our best, but the truth is … we are all trying to figure out how to be a human and how to make a good life. It’s not always as pretty as it looks.
- Busyness doesn’t equal control. Filling our calendars and planners gives us an illusion of control which feels good (even when overwhelming). It’s only an illusion though. Big plan or no plan, things may not turn out the way you thought. Don’t measure the success of something just on the results or how they matched up to your plan or goal. P.S. You can’t escape uncertainty and discomfort by being really busy. Been there, tried that.
- You probably have more figured out than you think. When you think you have no idea what you are doing, make a list of what you do know. Write down what’s happening now, or what happened recently even though you didn’t have it all figured out.
In the moments that feel scary and uncertain, remind yourself things are unfolding and that worry and overthinking won’t change a thing. Give the pieces time to reveal themselves, and then take the time you need to put them together. When you feel overwhelmed by it all, just do this.