Our bodies, minds and lives are in a constant state of transition. From a cellular level to the very obvious transformation and flux that goes on in our days, weeks and years, things are changing. Unfortunately, we often think about transition as a time to “get through”.
You might notice that transition is always going on. Transition happens …
- in your diet
- in your relationships
- in your business
- in your living situations
- in your health
- in your attitude
For some reason we use transition as a mode of transportation to get somewhere, but usually, one transition simply leads to the next. Searching for stability, security, calm and comfort as a permanent place is useless. Instead of waiting to finish, getting through it, or trying to arrive, be simply happy during transition. When you find ways to infuse transition with the feelings you most desire, you can stop putting life on hold.
10 Rules for Simple Happiness during Transition
- Phones off after 8pm. Our biggest mistake while selling our home was taking calls after 8pm. Bad news would keep us up at night and so would good news. During transition or anytime, set a cut off time for incoming information from phones or email. Allow for a break between processing and sleeping.
- Connect with another source of happy. If you can’t find it in your heart to be happy and can’t see the happy around the corner, read something uplifting or call a friend that always makes you smile. The easiest way to find happiness is to generate it yourself, but that isn’t possible in every situation. Ask for help when you need it.
- Focus on what you have, not what you want. Getting grateful about what you have is the easiest way to put what you want into perspective. Even if you never get exactly what you think you want, find thanks and happiness in what you have.
- Put perfection and expectation in the back seat. No matter how carefully you plan something or how badly you want it, it’s rare when things end up exactly as you hoped. Consider that a different outcome or result is better than the original dream. Be open and flexible and there will be less room for disappointment.
- Learn. If you weren’t so focused on the suffering or upheaval a transition offers, you could recognize the often subtle lessons that appear.
- Change Direction. There is no rule that prevents you from transitioning during a transition. Don’t be afraid to change direction. Finishing something is not always the best course of action.
- Exercise. Walk, stretch, move, take a hike, get your asana on, play tennis or do something that gets your heart pumping and body moving. There is happiness in movement and knowing that you are doing something good for your body and brain.
- Establish routine. You might not be able to maintain your regular morning or evening routine during a time of transition, but you can establish mini-routines during the day. Even a 5 – 15 minute chunk of the day devoted to meditation, creativity or anything that is consistent can be a stress reliever and reminder that a time of transition is still real life. When things settle down, re-establish a meaningful morning routine.
- Process over destination. Don’t base your happiness on the end result of anything. You can’t measure an entire journey based on one moment, number or transaction.
- Choose happiness. Don’t wait for a transition to make you happy. It won’t. There are so many external forces involved in transition and life that your only hope for sustainable happiness is to choose it.
Transition is ever-present in life, business and relationships. Instead of pressing the pause button, give yourself permission to live in transition. You’ve heard the saying, there are no dress rehearsals in life, and transition is no excuse. The world keeps spinning and your life keeps moving. Don’t shut down and miss opportunities to live an amazing life and be happy.
How do you find happiness during transition?