For just a moment, think about why you live like you live. Remember the times you’ve tried something new and then backed off. Or what about the time you had a new idea, but didn’t follow through because it sounded a little crazy? It was probably your decision, but it may have been influenced by someone else or what you thought someone else might think.
I often hear the following feedback from people who say they want to live with less.
I can’t live with less and simplify my life because:
- my family is not on board
- my husband/wife is a hoarder
- my friends like to go shopping
- people will think I’m weird
- I can’t convince anyone that it’s a good idea
I am 100% sure that all of those things happened and equally sure that it doesn’t matter. What your friends and family think can make things more or less enjoyable, but they cannot determine how you live your life. You can share your ideas and consider others, but it’s not up to you to convince, sway or prove anything. Your actions are much more compelling than your arguments.
We use the same excuses for any lifestyle change; losing weight, saving money, changing jobs, moving and other life altering decisions. We choose not to stand out, or change course because of what other people think or what we think they will think.
You don’t have to prove yourself or defend your lifestyle.
- Maybe your whole house won’t be decluttered, but you can still carve out a clutter-free corner for yourself.
- Maybe your husband doesn’t want to be a vegetarian, but you can cook him chicken and eat a salad or vegan tacos.
- People will think you are weird, but what they think about you says more about them than it does about you.
- Maybe your friends love to shop, but you can invite them to go for a hike or out to brunch.
It’s time to stop defending your life so you can fully enjoy living it. You have an unassailable right to live with less, live with more, or live in a foreign country. You have an unassailable right to eat more vegetables, eat more meat, wear only white, wear only black, wear only one shoe or wear your birthday suit on Saturdays. You have an unassailable right to do work you love, to start your own microbusiness, to work for your parents or not to work at all.
We can still care about people without caring about how they think we should live.
I am passionate about a simpler life with fewer possessions and obligations and that is how I choose to live. Embrace your choices and change your mind when you want to live differently.
When you decide to march to the beat of your different, beautiful, unique, crazy drum can you take responsiblity for your choices and your life. You can stop blaming anyone else for your life experience and you can smile when people shake their head or give you a funny look, knowing that you are living your most complete, fulfilling life.
What excuse, thought, comment or objection will you release right now so you can claim your unassailable right to live a life that makes you happy?