Because I created a fashion challenge, people assume that I’m going to tell them what to wear. Or, they think I’m going to tell them what I wear.
Neither of those things are going to happen (except for this one time when I told you what NOT to wear).
What I wear is the least interesting thing about me, and where I got what I’m wearing or what I spent on it is even less interesting than that.
I didn’t always feel that way. I used to talk about the great deals I got (even though they weren’t that great). I asked people where they got their shoes/clothes/handbags. I believed that what I wore would make me look or feel beautiful, smart and loved. I strived to keep up with the trends and bought what the magazines suggested. I bought things on sale when stores sent me “preferred customer” offers. I played the game.
I’m not playing anymore.
We have better things to talk about than “what to wear”
If our focus is on what we wear, or how we look or what other people think about what we wear or how we look, what isn’t getting our focus and attention?
I share my looks on Instagram and write about my experience with capsule wardrobes, not as a prescriptive but to demonstrate the benefits of dressing and living with less.
Benefits like …
- easier mornings
- saving money
- more confidence
- less decision fatigue
- more focus and attention for what matters to you
I don’t share these things because I think you should wear what I wear, or because I want you to buy new things for your closet. I don’t recommend buying anything new if you are just starting Project 333. Over the first 3 months, your idea of what you want or need in your closet and what you like wearing will change. It’s a transformative three months.
The one thing you need to know about what you wear
If you are like I was … hoping something new will make you feel something you don’t, or be someone you are not, this is the one thing you need to know about what you wear. You will never find something to wear that makes you feel beautiful, smart or loved until you believe you already are. And once you believe, you won’t need it from your clothes or other belongings anymore.
When you find your confidence and worth on the inside instead of the outside …
You won’t be playing the game anymore.
You’ll have focus and attention for what really matters.
You’ll be light.
You’ll be free.
You’ll be you.